Drama Dudes & Drama Dames

This post is all about sass and solutions to solve the Drama Dudes & Drama Dames dilemma.

There is one addiction that few people acknowledge-drama. None of us escape. They stalk us in our families, friendships, and work environments. If you are a kind person and a good listener, let the force be with you.

In my mind, drain and drama have the same results. Extract, bleed, leach, deplete, strain, disturb, and exhaust is who you will be spending your precious time with. No manners, short-tempered, no filters, constantly talking about themselves or their problems, every other word begins with “f” or “f…g”. In their world, you are their rant receiver and nothing more. As Drama Enablers describe it, “They are just loud; the whole family is that way.” What we grow up with is often mistaken for being normal. There is nothing fun, however, about being around their drama and unresolved issues.

How am I doing so far?

This Is The Sass Section

On the flip side, let me share some gems (Author Unknown) that I found to deal with the Drama Dudes & Drama Dames species.

• You, Sir, are the human version of period cramps.
• I am not responsible for what my face does when you talk.
• Sorry for the mean, awful, accurate things I said.
• If you line up all your exes in a row, you can see the flow chart of your mental illness.
• I don’t insult people. I describe them.
• At times I’m grateful that thoughts don’t appear in bubbles over our heads.
• Some people need a shock collar, and I need the remote.
• One thing about being wrong is the joy it brings to others.
• On Marriage: Because your lousy day doesn’t have to end at work. Avoid disappointment by giving up hope.
• If you love someone, set them free. If you hate someone, set them free. Basically, set everyone free and get a dog.

I hope you enjoyed those. If you did not, you might be addicted to drama, struggle with no sense of humor syndrome, or experienced early developmental trauma.

This Is The Solutions Part

According to Psychology Today, there are four key points to figure out why some people excessively seek attention and drama.

• Excessive attention-seeking is a brain-wiring response to early developmental trauma caused by neglect.
• Drama gets attention and makes the brain secrete endorphins, which are pain-suppressing and pleasure-inducing compounds.
• People who abuse substances, alcohol, or food are more prone to excessive attention-seeking and drama addiction.
• The brain-wiring response is the more a child’s needs are neglected, the more the child equates getting attention with survival and safety.

In several of my previous posts, Rescue From Less Than, Supper To Self-Protection, Generational Trauma Entrepreneur, I wrote about the neglect and abuse I experienced in childhood. I survived because I did not want to hurt other people like my parents hurt me, and I wanted a happier life.

With each new day we are given, we choose who we will be and what we will accept from other people. I never forgot the words of an art instructor who said, “Simplicity is the essence of good design.” I found that is also true with relationships.

My simple philosophy about living joyfully is: I am good to people who are good to me. The problem with always putting others first is you’ve taught them you come second. That persistent inequality is the kiss of death for many relationships.

Let’s Be Real Part

Some people will never like you because they have not dealt with their drama trauma. It’s just easier for them to blame someone else. They judge you even though they’ve never taken the time to get to know you. It doesn’t matter how kind or supportive you are to them. When people show you they don’t care, believe them and move on.

Time is the one thing we all have the same amount of. Quit wasting your time so you can connect with the people who enjoy your company and who you are like-minded with. Make it a habit to put your self-worth first.

The quality of your life depends on the quality of the people you let into your life.

If the above suggestions don’t work for you, I suggest leaving this welcome mat out and don’t open the door!

Tough Cookie Tip: Just say no to crap. Problem solved.

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